How to use this
How Rehearse works
Rehearse exists because so many of us struggle with difficult conversations and end up avoiding the ones that matter. A bit of practice can make them so much easier.
The goal
To help you build healthier real-life relationships by being able to practise difficult conversations before you have them for real. You find out how you react in the moment, with nothing at stake, so you can go into the real conversation steadier and more yourself.
How you do it
You either pick an example and go from there, or you create your own conversation that you are dreading or that is coming up. You practise it out loud, you get feedback, and then you can go through it again.
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Pick an example, or create your own
Start with one of the examples on the home page, or describe the conversation you are dreading or that is coming up. Say what is happening, who the other person is, and how you expect them to react.
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Practise it out loud
Talk the conversation through with a character who holds their position and pushes back the way you described. It wraps up after a few exchanges, so it is short on purpose.
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Read the feedback
Short feedback quotes what you actually said, what landed, and what did not. It names one thing to focus on next time.
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Go again and change one thing
Run the same conversation again and try a different approach. The point is repeating it, finding out how you react in the moment, so you can go into the real one steadier.
Why repetition matters
Planning a hard conversation in your head is not the same as having it. You can know exactly what you want to say and still lose the thread the moment the other person reacts. Emotion is the part you cannot predict, and normally you only get one go, for real, when it matters. Rehearsing the same conversation a few times, changing one thing each time, is how you learn how you actually react, so the real one goes better.